Cause Girls Is Players Too

I often find myself trying to make sense of life. I remember growing up as a kid hearing people tell me that the word "nigger" meant an ignorant person. I thought...no it doesn't! Maybe technically it does, but realistically it doesn't. Even then I knew that perception was reality without hearing the cool quote. But, it bothers me when I think I'm right, but I have no proof. So, I decided to try and prove or disprove my thinking.

I was pretty cool with one of my white classmates, so I decided to use him as my test dummy. Even though I wasn't at my historically black college or even a majority black school at the time, this wasn't a rare term by any stretch of the imagination. So, I used it as a term of endearment (no hard "r" -- where they do that at) and I said to my white classmate, "You know you're my nigga, right."

We weren't really young, but I feel like we weren't in corporate America and we were cool enough, so he quickly responded with the truth and nothing but the truth and said, "I'm not black."

I knew it! My sanity check was complete. If it meant what they said it meant, he would have said, I'm not ignorant/stupid/dumb/etc.

Fast forward about a million years. I find myself needing a reality check again. Times change, so anything I write or think is probably going to be complete 360 in a few years. But, nigga still doesn't mean an ignorant person. I wonder if people still tell that lie.

I love this catchy son, Players by Coi Leray. I must admit, I think this is one of the times where I'm overanalyzing, but then again I am me. I think some women actually subscribe to the idea that a nigga is an ignorant person. However, I think that some terms are masculine/feminine (even in our genderless society) in English just like in Spanish. Dog (Dawg) is the masculine version of Bitch. Only one of the terms is offensive or a curse word, which tends to be the case. I mean, when is the last time you heard of someone calling someone else a father fucker?

It's also possible that I'm looking at groups of people that think like me and there are other groups that exist. Groups that get offended by being called a dog or groups of people that think nigger is an ignorant person. I do know women tell other women, "That's my bitch!", but maybe there's a group of people where women say that to straight men lovingly, as a term of endearment and it is received the same way. Girls aren't players too, because the feminine version of a player is a whore or ho. One of them is offensive and derogatory, is that always the feminine version?